True Love

I was in a conversation the other day and up pops the topic of true love.

It is an odd and awkward topic for me…

Webster’s defines love as an intense feeling of deep affection.

I certainly have felt deep affection for people and animals.

I absolutely love my children and grandchildren…and know those feelings are true.

The oddness is I have not found true love in either of my marriages.

With my first marriage I was young, immature, and did not fully understand what I was feeling….incapable of true love and a bad spouse.

My second marriage was more of a social convenience…enjoyable at times, but not really meaningful. I ended up realizing – in the end – stopping the relationship was no loss for me.

The discussion of true love momentarily left me feeling I was missing out on something in life….never finding a truly loving and loved companion.

I on occasion see couples in love. Generally it is with either a younger couple or an older couple…seldom see loving couples in the middle years.

Are we too busy and preoccupied in our middle years to appreciate one another?

It also occurs to me many folks might have lost their ability to truly love.

We live in a fast food…deliver to your door society.

Love takes time.

Love is complicated and complex.

The biology of love is to a degree known, but also mysterious.

I enjoy my loving relationships…. and do not feel ‘something is missing’ because my marriages did not feel truly loving.

I search for new loving relationships.